- Low Fat
- Fat Free
- Fragrance Free
- Sugar Free
- Low Fat
- All Natural
- Made With Natural Ingredients
- Unscented: generally it means that the product may contain chemicals that neutralize or mask the odors of other ingredients. No thank you!!!
- All-Natural: may contain preservatives, be injected with sodium, or contain high fructose corn syrup. (Research HFCS! That stuff is ubiquitous, yet has caused me all kinds of trouble!)
- Sugar-Free: These products often contain artificial sugars (Aspartame, Sucralose, Saccharin) or sugar alcohols (Mannitol, Xylitol, Sorbitol). note: Sugar alcohols can cause diarrhea so don’t consume a lot in one sitting.
- Fat-Free: fats are responsible for much of the good taste of foods. To compensate, sugars (or worse) are added. In essence, we trade one evil for another.
- Made with Real Fruit: While companies must list the amount of nutrients they contain, such as fat and cholesterol, they do not have to disclose the percentage of ingredients, such as fruits and whole grain. So that photo of yummy strawberries might be on a product made with pears and lots of food dye.
- Read every label of everything you allow into your home. Whip out your phone right there in the aisle as you shop and look up those ingredients. (I say this knowing full well that if you have a toddler or infant with you, it won't be easy. But look at those sweet faces. Are they worth taking the extra time to keep them safe?)
- Join a like-minded community like my Facebook Group.
- Shop for one ingredient foods where possible.
- Know the difference between nutrients made in a lab and nutrients made in plants.
(Unless we've worked hard and then we add another 1 or two capsules.)
Young Living has so many beautiful, powerful, adaptogenic oils that it can seem overwhelming to get started with confidence.
There are endless essential oils to choose from, so how do you choose which ones to actually use?
I love to just stand in front of my oils and intuitively choose. But if you want a more systematic way to choose, perhaps this list will help.
Heart opening. Try lavender, frankincense, geranium, rose, abundance, harmony, inner child, helichrysum, or jasmine. These oils are all associated with the heart, helping you open up your center of giving and receiving unconditional love.
Grounding. Use frankincense, pine, vetiver, cedarwood, black spruce, cypress, or any other tree oil you like. These earthy, tree-based oils help connect you to your roots in the earth, bring you out of your head and into your body. (Are you a navel gazer? I work hard to break that self-sabotaging habit!)
Connecting to God. Opt for frankincense, palo santo, sandalwood, ginger, or basil oil. (Yogis say these oils open your crown chakra, your center of connection with your highest self and with the divine.)
Enhancing creativity. This is one of my favorite themes and one of my favorite things to use essential oils for! A few oils for creativity are citrus fresh, tangerine, orange, peppermint, believe, highest potential, and clary sage. These oils help open your center of creativity, emotion, and sexuality.
Enhancing intuition. Experiment with clarity, envision, frankincense, rosemary, or sage. (Yogis call this your third eye chakra.)
Cultivating gratitude. Try lemon, bergamot, release, grapefruit, clove, harmony, acceptance, white angelica, or orange oil for gratitude. Their scents help elevate your mood and open your heart.
Surrendering. Opt for northern lights black spruce, surrender, peace & calming, stress away, Roman chamomile, or ylang ylang, all oils that help release control issues.
Self-confidence. Use Valor, lavender lemongrass, neroli, jasmine, believe, or eucalyptus to open your center of speaking your truth, being seen, setting boundaries, and expressing yourself.
Promoting good sleep. My favorite oils for sleep are gentle, calming oils like lavender, stress away, peace & calming, sleepyize, vetiver, and neroli.
I have found that when I set an intention when using oils, my results are much better. For example, before Bible study, applying Frankincense to my forehead and then cupping my hands and breathing in deeply while praising God and asking Him to bless me in His presence, I am able to focus better and feel a stronger connection to Him.
Do you have a go-to oil that serves you well during a particular time or theme in your life?
- Fine-tune my WHY - Why do I want to meet this goal?
- Utilize information and resources I already have - That means I need to stop researching, stop buying programs and books to educate me and just start doing the things I already know to do!
- Map out an overall strategy to the goal - What are the big actions needed to get there?
- Break up each big action into doable smaller actions - Start with one thing, then the next, then the next.
- Put those small actions on my calendar - A schedule will keep me accountable and ticking those things off my to-do list will give me gratification and incentive to keep going.
2. Grow thicker skin. It isn't personal and it isn't about you. Your loved one is doing the best she can do. Her former self would be mortified to hear the things coming out of her mouth. Or know that she would disrobe and sit in all her glory in the living room.
3. Others will be happy to give you advice on how you can do better or how you should be doing things differently. But not time. They can't or won't give you time. Perhaps it's because they genuinely don't have the time to give. Maybe they think you're doing a better job at giving care than they could. (Please don't believe this lie.) Maybe they feel inadequate. Maybe you haven't asked for help. (PLEASE ask for help!)
4. Telemarketers provide essential opportunities for adult conversation. Utilize them. There's a short window of opportunity to talk to telemarketers, so make it count!
5. Nobody wants to hear about any of it. Tell it to the telemarketers.
6. Modesty is a foreign concept: nakedness will be the new norm. Bathing is perceived as extreme torture. Grow a thick skin and remind yourself that you are now the adult: she is the child. Tough love is TOUGH!
7. Words will fail. Sentences will be unintelligible. Your loved one will speak in a totally random language with no available translation. But if she loved music, she'll be able to sing her favorite songs. In English. In tune. And it will make her happy. Be thankful. Sing with her.
8. Greet each day in gratitude. I can't stress this enough. Be thankful. Keep a gratitude journal. See blessings everywhere.
9. Forgive often. Forgive completely. Let past hurts go. Holding on to that hurts you more than anyone else. Let It Go.
10. Remember it's still not about you... until it is. You'll need time away from the chaos, the heartache, the day-to-day insanity, so make it happen. Make. It. Happen. You can't give from an empty well; take time to refill your well.
11. You're not alone. It just feels that way. Find a support group that understands what you are living. If you can't get to an in-person group, find one online. And don't just lurk! Interact. Post comments. Ask questions. Be a helper and receive help.
12. People move on. Find the energy to maintain outside relationships or be prepared to forge new ones when you're no longer the caregiver. You'll probably have to reset your mindset. Your tendency will probably be to stay isolated, but don't do that. Find opportunities to be with people again: church, communtiy functions, school functions. Call a friend that you've lost touch with and go to lunch. It get's easier. I promise.